If there’s one thing the last few weeks and months have taught us, it’s that you just never know what can happen. All our best laid plans have been thrown aside, nights out, birthday celebrations, holidays, even just dinner with our families have been cancelled. Everyone is talking about how this will be the catalyst for change in the world but it’s time to bring that idea closer to home too.
As you look around your place of isolation can you see all the things you were saving for the right time? Is there a dress in your wardrobe that you haven’t worn because you’re waiting for the perfect occasion or you’re worried about what people will say when you wear it? Is there a super fancy cream in the bathroom that you only allow yourself the tiniest bit off? Did you spend months thinking about another piercing? Or dyeing your hair pink? Or buying a large bar of Tony’s Chocoloney and eating the whole thing yourself?
Are you on Zoom with friends spread all over the world wondering why you don’t do this more often? Are you remembering the last Sunday before lockdown when you blew off calling to your parents because you were hungover – and does it fill you with guilt?
But this is not the time for regrets, things are tough enough. This is the time to be silly, to have a black tie night out with your mates in your living room, to light all the expensive candles you have, to slather yourself in that body lotion because when all this is over and we race into the arms of our friends and family you should do it with a rested heart, soft skin, an amazing dress and a new attitude. Now we know there is no point in saving things for special occasions because the world can laugh at our best laid plans and cancel them in an instant.
It’s time to be kinder, not just to the world but to ourselves. When you were missing your loved ones did you ever once think about what weight they were, what handbag they own, how much money they earned? No, you thought about what a laugh you have together, how much you miss talking to them face to face, how much you want to give them a hug. You should feel the same way about yourself.
Your health is your wealth, your friends and family are your happiness. Everything else is just icing on top of the cake. Lockdown has shown us what we really miss and who is really important. Don’t wait to use your lovely things, don’t worry about saying I love you.
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” - Eleanor Roosevelt